Traditionally a woman is that person who is to be more compromise in a family relation. At the same time a working woman gets less time for her natural and traditional duties – devoting time to home, giving birth and raising the children.
Once I had an opportunity to communicate with a foreigner who shared with an interesting theory. He asked, why people divorce. And answered, the matter is they do not speak similar language. What languages did he mean?
Negativism is a part of an every day life. Negative people, negative feelings, negative conduct… Is it something that a person need? The family coaches suggest another scenario of a life – without those things which make a life unhappy.
Compromising in every life situation is an ideal way to solve the problems. It concerns every sphere of a family life. Stubbornness and silliness are not the friends of a happy marriage.
The men and women used to speak different languages as well. I do not mean the gestures, signs or hints - they are just an alternative way to express feelings and thoughts. I mean that a woman and a man can pronounce the same phrase, but put different content into it. For example, a man says "You are the most beautiful woman in the world" to make his beloved a nice compliment, but what does a woman hear? "You are the most beautiful woman I had ever known". This thought is followed with anther one "How many women does he know?". Actually, the women possess very rich imagination. Sometimes it is very harmful. The women are to be more prosaic. Perhaps, then they would understand the men better.
Sometimes the women are too direct and specified. For example, a woman says "How many times should I repeat you?", "I am explaining it for half an hour!", "My father can do it, but you...", "My mother was right as for your stubborn character" or "You make it wrong every time". The problem is that the women are very inclined to generalize and personalize a husband's faults. A friend of mine hated such words as "ever", "never" and similar. That time, unfortunately, I could not understand what was wrong.
Well, it is worthy replace these words with the following "You are wrong today", "You could buy the tickets today" and so on. At least it is not so offensive than feeling guilty all the time. Every person does not like to feel tensed constantly. So, definitely he/she would like to throw the burden instead of pulling it along for a life time.