Traditionally a woman is that person who is to be more compromise in a family relation. At the same time a working woman gets less time for her natural and traditional duties – devoting time to home, giving birth and raising the children.
Once I had an opportunity to communicate with a foreigner who shared with an interesting theory. He asked, why people divorce. And answered, the matter is they do not speak similar language. What languages did he mean?
Negativism is a part of an every day life. Negative people, negative feelings, negative conduct… Is it something that a person need? The family coaches suggest another scenario of a life – without those things which make a life unhappy.
Compromising in every life situation is an ideal way to solve the problems. It concerns every sphere of a family life. Stubbornness and silliness are not the friends of a happy marriage.
My friend is sad and wordless today. He is looking at the window boringly. He worries about relation with his wife. The problem can be cleared with five words – she wants a child, he doesn't. Are they both happy? Or another situation. A friend of mine is thirty years old, but she does not have desire to bear a child, but her husband is opposite to her opinion. Are they happy? In fact, this event does not promote the development of the relations.
Having children is a natural process in a family. The matter is that the notion of a family includes children. Anyway, the notion of a family is developing, making its borders more unclear and transparent. Now a family without children is not considered to be wrong, anyway, with an only condition – if both partners do not want to raise children.
Of course, at the wedding time young people love each other and do not think about the rest. Everything will come... In some years they risk to find a problem when one of the partners is childfree. Suppressive and aggressive methods are not the way out. At the same time, the family coachers are sure that worries are groundless if a couple is really in love. At least, they say that a woman psychological readiness to bear a child is forward for four years.
Of course, there is an adventurous "feminine" invention – to become pregnant and then let him know. It is rather a risky situation. He can clap the door in a fit of temper. Well, a woman is to be compromise, wise and skilful sometimes, but not impudent. The parents are to be ready to child birth. A child is to be longed-for and planned.