Traditionally a woman is that person who is to be more compromise in a family relation. At the same time a working woman gets less time for her natural and traditional duties – devoting time to home, giving birth and raising the children.
Once I had an opportunity to communicate with a foreigner who shared with an interesting theory. He asked, why people divorce. And answered, the matter is they do not speak similar language. What languages did he mean?
Negativism is a part of an every day life. Negative people, negative feelings, negative conduct… Is it something that a person need? The family coaches suggest another scenario of a life – without those things which make a life unhappy.
Compromising in every life situation is an ideal way to solve the problems. It concerns every sphere of a family life. Stubbornness and silliness are not the friends of a happy marriage.
Two hot-tempered people really create a dangerous situation. How to explain the fact that they quarrel about every trifle in a family life? People could be even-tempered, but sometimes they make each other be nervous as well. Actually, why are married people so impatient to the trifles? "Oh, it is a trifle for you. As for me, I do not consider it to be a trifle" – a usual answer. Of course, every person is opposite to another person. Just imagine the situation. A wife makes her husband take away his socks every day. It is a natural event as their common comfort and coziness depends on the home order, especially if there are small kids in a family. At least nobody wants them to play with the dirty clothes. An everyday life is formed with such trifles.
But if a wife wants a husband to take dust out right now, right at the moment and any refusal is accepted... or she blames him for eating the holiday dishes before the holiday itself... well, it is worthy reflection. Is it really a good way of wife's behavior.
Actually, I am sure that many family coaches are able to give a piece of a professional advice, but as for me, it is better to discuss a real problem, or even a trifle that can make my family life harder and even unbearable.