Traditionally a woman is that person who is to be more compromise in a family relation. At the same time a working woman gets less time for her natural and traditional duties – devoting time to home, giving birth and raising the children.
Once I had an opportunity to communicate with a foreigner who shared with an interesting theory. He asked, why people divorce. And answered, the matter is they do not speak similar language. What languages did he mean?
Negativism is a part of an every day life. Negative people, negative feelings, negative conduct… Is it something that a person need? The family coaches suggest another scenario of a life – without those things which make a life unhappy.
Compromising in every life situation is an ideal way to solve the problems. It concerns every sphere of a family life. Stubbornness and silliness are not the friends of a happy marriage.
Forms of the relationship in a family. It is not a secret that every person is expected to play some role in the relationship in accordance to the accepted form of relations – liberal, democratic or authoritarian. Usually, this form is not declared from the very first day of a family life, but formed due to the characters of a couple, habits, expectations or life position
Role and functional co-ordination. A family is expected to be based on a mutual work. If you are assumed the honor of being a provider, so, you are expected to be a provider and no other, for example.
Misunderstanding. People can live together for a couple of years, but still speak different languages. It prevents determining a family role and correct understanding of its content and duties. The situation turns to be like in this fable – things are not moving.
Life status and stubbornness could be the real obstacles for a happy family life. A person who does not wish to change his life status in accordance with the family interests definitely becomes an initiator of the divorce process.
Dreams and reality. A wedding ceremony is a dream, but a family life is reality. A wise person is to define these notions. Or at least experience their opposite nature during a family life.