Traditionally a woman is that person who is to be more compromise in a family relation. At the same time a working woman gets less time for her natural and traditional duties – devoting time to home, giving birth and raising the children.
Once I had an opportunity to communicate with a foreigner who shared with an interesting theory. He asked, why people divorce. And answered, the matter is they do not speak similar language. What languages did he mean?
Negativism is a part of an every day life. Negative people, negative feelings, negative conduct… Is it something that a person need? The family coaches suggest another scenario of a life – without those things which make a life unhappy.
Compromising in every life situation is an ideal way to solve the problems. It concerns every sphere of a family life. Stubbornness and silliness are not the friends of a happy marriage.
I've heard about a curious case some years ago. A couple decided to divorce as a husband... was beaten by his wife... this case could be very funny if not so sad. This kind of a family relationship is normal in exactly this family. Perhaps, they find some kind of relaxation and pleasure in it. The last thing they want is help. The matter is that in some families it is a usual way to "communicate". Many cases are solved right at the place without the interfering of the policemen or other people.
There is an opposite case. A had a friend who became really anger about a wife's work, but at the same time he wanted her to work and earn money for the family business. Longer time at work was accepted as his personal offense and was hardly punished. No warm word, no apologies after that. Was it really a good way of a family relation? Was it comfortable for both of them? No, every of them was suffering because of the different expectations. At least they gave up the opportunities to safe their marriage.
Anyway, the family articles make a woman be sure that hitting is non-normal in the relationship. Who knows, today he hits her for too hot soup. Another day a woman will be hit longer and crueler.
As for me, fighting in a family can not be a normal way of conduct as it discovers the negative sides of a human character and personal feeling of family life dissatisfaction. For what is a family life which is not cozy, tender and supportive?