Traditionally a woman is that person who is to be more compromise in a family relation. At the same time a working woman gets less time for her natural and traditional duties – devoting time to home, giving birth and raising the children.
Once I had an opportunity to communicate with a foreigner who shared with an interesting theory. He asked, why people divorce. And answered, the matter is they do not speak similar language. What languages did he mean?
Negativism is a part of an every day life. Negative people, negative feelings, negative conduct… Is it something that a person need? The family coaches suggest another scenario of a life – without those things which make a life unhappy.
Compromising in every life situation is an ideal way to solve the problems. It concerns every sphere of a family life. Stubbornness and silliness are not the friends of a happy marriage.
Experiencing my own relationships with the men and observing other people's relations, I can definitely say that in many cases the representatives of the mankind used to teach their mates by the possible methods in order to make a mate as close to an ideal as it is possible. The most interesting fact is that both the men and women try to do it. Perhaps, to be more self-esteemed, perhaps, for another reason. But the fact is evident.
Well, the training methods are really primitive, as if he/she deals with the animals. For example, a beloved person leaves you without a sms just because you seem to be too cold and indifferent towards him during the last meeting of yours. He thinks that you are to think about your behavior and work out more polite attitude towards him. Unfortunately he does not tell about this at the proper time. Only later, when the situation is forgotten, he confesses that he was offended and wanted you to understand your mistake. Perhaps, it would be better to tell about his offense right after the case as later it seems to be more unjust.
In a family people live so close to each other, so, they have to bear many uncomfortable things, but unfortunately we are used to avenge on our offenses, even to the dearest people. It is not funny, but sad if we use such methods as sex or money refusing.
From another point of view, sometimes it is easier to make such a performance than to communicate calmly. Actually, I am afraid of these honest talking sometimes too. But it is more important to cope with a problem as the next stage – manipulating – is a possible way to nowhere. Or to the divorce.